lazy sunday (january) {life}

I know you wanted words, but I think I'll mostly let these pictures speak for themselves. Sundays are my favorites, in so many ways. We're lazy, lazy on Sundays around here. Just the way I like it.

Some Sundays have a fancy breakfast. And Callum always adds hot sauce.

This Sunday was the final of the Australian Open. We do breakfast at Wimbledon, and are happy to settle down and eat in front of any sporting event, but sometimes they drag on.

I had work to do.

 

It's been so warm this winter that our fires have been few and far between. We'll use any excuse to have homework curled up in front, though.

The doggies prefer the sunshine.

My work.

And Callum's. A last little bit of homework, saved until the end.
Neel's day in a nutshell...he's the hardest working dad in showbusiness.

We finished with a movie (that photo is for Annie!)

And day is done.

Day is done.

Day is done.

david's tree {life}

You may remember this tree from last Friday. I took these photos in Pennsylvania, at the suggestion of our friend David.

He told us about a tree that he drove past almost every day whose branches looked as if it was reaching back for the ground.

Standing alone in a field by itself.

On our way back from the tile works, we parked our car along the field and David and I scurried across the street (Neel and Diana wisely stayed in the car!) to snap a few quick shots. I was still shooting in .jpeg and still adjusting to the camera, but I wanted to try to catch the light and shadow and that stunning, towering tree. I love the little glimpse of roofline we catch in some of those photos. I'm sure that pop of blue is something utterly unromantic like a tarp, but how nice if someone painted a panel of roof that beautiful bright shade of sky?

We had great plans to get up the next morning and head out together, each with our cameras, and come back out, but did I mention that it was 14 degrees (F)? Never mind.

These will have to suffice. I played around in Lightroom some, brightening up the blue of the sky (have you ever noticed that when it's super cold or super hot the sky just isn't as blue?) and picking up the blacks to play up the contrast of that gorgeous tree. What do you think? I don't really fancy landscape photography, although I do enjoy looking at it. Still, I think my frame of reference may be skewed. Would David like them? I know you've never met him, but he's a pretty nice guy! Any in particular speak to you that I should print for him as a housewarming for their future home? David, if you read this, feel free to speak up! Oh, and Friday's tree, which was processed separately, is open for discussion too!

far away friends {life}

One of the many things I love about blogging is that there can be great immediacy to it, but that it also gives you an opportunity to look back and reflect on past fun times we've had. I gave you a glimpse into our drive to Pennsylvania that we took over a month ago now. It's well past time I told you about the visit itself. And right up front I'm going to ask for forgiveness, because apparently what I do when I'm fighting a fever and Callum and Neel are watching The Longest Day is make collages in Lightroom. It won't happen often, but today, it happens a lot. I still don't completely have it, and everything I did on Saturday I had to re-do, but I'm getting there. Anyhoo...

For nearly 15 years we've lived in military towns, first in San Diego and now here, and one of the hardest things to get used to is the ebb and flow of friendships as families get transfered into and out of communities. When we first moved to our block, all we heard about was the fabulousness of a certain family who owned the house across the street from us. They can't be that awesome, we thought. But when their orders brought them back to the hood for two years, it turns out that everyone was right. It's a special thing, one I've only learned to appreciate since Callum's birth, when the parents like each other, and the kids like each other too. Callum is bookended by the two older boys in the family, and Michael, the eldest really took care of him during his early years in lacrosse. He and Collin, the next brother down, are perhaps closer by a little bit, but Callum truly loves them all.

What the Navy giveth, the Navy taketh away, and two years ago our friends moved to Pennsylvania. I haven't seen a sadder picture than Callum and Collin sitting glumly, side-by-side on the front porch, chin in hand as they waited for the cars to depart. I'm just as glad I didn't have my camera that day. Six hours isn't so far away, and recognizing that it's harder for them to get down to us, we've tried to make it up to them when we can. This past January just seemed like time. (This was the first weekend I had my new camera, and I shot in .jpeg instead of RAW all weekend. You can tell I was still working the kinks out, but how nice it was to have Big Daddy along for this fun ride.)

We care about the same kinds of things (kids: sports and video games; adults: food and wine), so it's a pretty easy trip. David fed us very, very well.

From breakfast until dinner, they fed us very well. Hello, homemade sticky buns? Anyone?

We ate a lot.

The kids did this a lot.

The joined us a mealtimes though. That was my favorite, all of us eating together and talking. Just being together again.

We spent a lot of time around the table.

On a blustery Saturday, the grownups went in (sans children - oh the joys of an 8th grade babysitter!) to Doylestown to tool around a bit. David and Diana showed us some of their favorite haunts (you know Neel loves a town that proudly proclaims its hoagies!) on the main drag before we scuttled inside to warmer climes.

A whole store devoted to vinegars and olive oils? Be still my heart.

After gorging on enjoying little bits of bread and olive oil, David and Diana took us to the Moravian Pottery and Tile Works. I'd been there years and years ago with a friend from college, but it was fun to go back and explore these gorgeous buildings again.

I'm not Annie, so I'm (and I've been sick) not going to give you the deets on this amazing place. I trust that you can look them up on your own. Go forth and Google.

Afterwards, we split up, and David and Diana took the kids to basketball while Neel and I took ourselves to (squeee) IKEA. We ate another meal together (sausage the first night, lasagna the second) and had another breakfast. We watched some football (leadup to the Superbowl), ate some amazing dessert and all dozed off on the sofa. We talked again and again at how easy it is to be together.

Callum got some snuggles from not-so-baby Julia.

The boys let me get some photos in before we left. 

And here's the whole clan. Good friends, no matter the distance.

Collin, here he is next to Callum, kept asking if we could stay another day. You can see why, can't you?

monday mash up, february 27

I am honestly not at all sure you want to hear about my weekend. If you follow me on Instagram or Twitter (And if you don't, you should! I'm that fun.), you know that on Friday my temperature started creeping towards the higher numbers. Never as high as Callum's got, but high enough to make me (and thus everyone around me) fairly miserable. Callum took forever to recover. He was still wiped out on Saturday (thank goodness we can do baseball tryouts next weekend), but he's starting to get ravenous again so that's a good sign. Callum and I have each been sick three times since that first time that Neel spread the viral-love. I think that pretty much negates my hypothesis that our rest spared us the brunt of the illness (Neel has yet to get sick again, knock wood.) But let's not tell Neel that shall we? Man can gloat like nobody's business. (Everybody who really knows Neel right now is probably cracking up at that, yes? He's sooooo gloaty.)

All my good food plans have gone, poof! Bye-bye. All my cooking, grocery shopping, make-your-own-stuff-ing, can wait. Not happening this weekend. Instead, poor Neel went to the grocery store twice to pick up pre-made stuff while I main-lined tea with honey. On Sunday morning, I woke up...you know that moment when you're awake but before you really move into awake and open your eyes? So I woke up and lay there for a moment with my eyes closed and made a plan. If it was four, I'd stay in bed and try to go back to sleep. If it was five, I'd get up and cuddle up downstairs on the sofa (permanent imprint of my butt there, by the way). It was 5:17 a.m. So (heaves a heavy sigh), I came down stairs and tucked myself into the corner of the sectional (my favorite spot), turned Sports Center on, and promptly went back to sleep until about 8. I know that most of you will be dismayed to hear that I turned Sports Center on, but darlings, that's the way it is. To my mind, it's some of the best background noise there is, and the local news doesn't come on until 6.

I was going to spend Sunday getting some work done to make up for the days I'd missed tending to my flu-ridden boy (All you mommies and daddies out there, those days when your toddler won't release his steely grip from your leg? We still have those at 12.), but instead I sat on the sofa staring at Property Virgins and House Hunters. I kept trying to watch Bethenney Ever After, but Callum insisted on coming back into the house every ten minutes. So I watched tv and main-lined tea with honey. Yay me.

See? I told you you wouldn't want to read about my weekend. Neel replaced a section of fence, got some seeds started (The photo of which disappeared from my camera roll, but I gave you sleeping doggies.) and helped our neighbor get back in her house after she locked herself out with her daughter still in her crib. I did not do nearly as much. I blogged from my lap, I surrendered the supervision of Callum doing his make-up work (thanks, Neel!), but before I got sick I did make Callum chicken soup using my very own homemade chicken broth. AND garnished it with my parsley. Too bad he didn't have much of an appetite.

I was thisclose to deciding to boycott the finale of Top Chef, but fortunately I won't have to do that. I won't say anymore. And I shamelessly used my extreme illness to make Callum and Neel watch the Oscar pre-show with me (See? I am a girl!). Any thoughts?

But by far the nicest thing that happened to me was when Will of Bright.Bazaar linked to my blog in this lovely post. He has an awesome design blog, and I'm beyond flattered. Blush. You should go check it out. What else is going on? Oh! Wait! Quick question...I'm finally going to post our day-in-the-life later this week. Words and photos or just photos?

five things, february 24th edition

1. I think I'm not going to win Mother of the Year based on this week. Neighbor-Nurse Rebecca says that Callum actually had the flu over the weekend, and Neel and I are now thinking we sent him back to school too soon. In hindsight I was too hard on him while he was sick, practically willing him to get better. Neel and Callum went briefly into school Thursday morning to gather some books and touch base with his teachers, and they were so understanding. Apparently kids are dropping like files. He came home and slept all day. He's not eating at all (even M&Ms!), and we'll likely keep him home today. He still isn't 100%, and baseball try-outs are tomorrow. Way to go, Mom.
2. I think I'm totally okay with giving myself a pass on this week's P52. Had you noticed? The theme was self-portrait (oh, great) with the underlying theme of honesty (super fun). Yeah, I just wasn't feeling it. I want to do it though, just not this week. I'm ordering a wireless remote for my camera, and that little bit of inexpensive equipment should help. Be on the look-out in the next days (weeks?).
3. I think I'm totally failing on this breakfast business. The side dishes are going pretty well, but breakfast, not so much. There are a couple of reasons. I'm not good at taking the time, for starters, and I just don't love breakfast food. At least not at breakfast. I love breakfast-for-dinner. Or brunch even! Anybody have any suggestions? What are you eating for breakfast?
4. I think it's pretty funny that my copy of Organizing the Disorganized Child was lost in a pile of magazines on the console table behind our sofa.
5. I think it's good I waited until today to write about Dr. Lewis again. The first thing I want to say to you, dear readers, is thank you. So many of you have held us and Dr. Lewis and his family in your hearts and thoughts this week. We have certainly felt buoyed up and cherished, and many of you don't even know us! This community is such a spectacular thing; it's hard to have the words for what it means to me. Leah wrote a stunningly poignant and beautiful post that touches on her own loss, all the while hoping to comfort us during our own, and nearly every day someone has reached out to check on me and Neel and make sure that we're over here, doing okay. Plugging away. It's early as I write this and Neel's not up yet, so I can't ask him how much it's okay to say. Let me say this much at least. I know he's very much touched by all of your concern. And he's plugging away.

Dr. Lewis's memorial service was on Wednesday, and for us and all who knew him it was a sad, sad day. We'd heard that the visitation on Tuesday had a line out the door of the funeral home, so we left early for the church on Wednesday, and even though we got there an hour before the service was to start, the place was almost completely full. It was an incredibly moving service in Dr. Lewis's home church among people who knew him well. Through his work as a ground-breaking pediatrician and an administrator at our local children's hospital and medical school, Dr. Lewis touched many, many lives. The euolgy was given by a fellow pediatrician who looked like BJ Honneycut from MASH, and he did a wonderful, sweet and funny job. I was touched, particularly, at the church, at how important ceremonies like this are to those of us who are left behind, and I was so grateful that the priest said, "Of course we're heartbroken." Dr. Lewis's wife, as Neel noted, looked crumpled. It was a beautiful, spring-like day, so Neel and I came home and took a long walk together. Neel handles these things in his own way, and the night before and after the funeral, he honored his friend by watching episodes of From the Earth to the Moon (a wonderful series that they both loved - if you have a chance to watch this, I really recommend it, and it's a great way to introduce kids to the wonders of our space program). I think about how sad and stunned we still are, and I think about his wife. I just can't believe he's gone.

I was not raised in a church, but I always find myself so moved when I am in one. Especially by the music. My mom, I think, can relate to this. Dr. Lewis was a graduate of the Naval Academy, and we sang the Naval Academy Hymn. It's a beautiful song, and seemed so fitting.

Eternal Father, strong to save,
Whose arm hath bound the restless wave,
Who biddest the mighty ocean deep
Its own appointed limits keep;
Oh, hear us when we cry to Thee,
For those in peril on the sea!

O Christ! Whose voice the waters heard
And hushed their raging at Thy Word,
Who walked on the foaming deep,
And calm amidst its rage didst sleep;
Oh, hear us when we cry to Thee,
For those in peril on the sea!

Most Holy Spirit! Who didst brood
Upon the chaos dark and rude,
And bid its angry tumult cease,
And give, for wild confusion, peace;
Oh, hear us when we cry to Thee,
For those in peril on the sea!

O Trinity of love and power!
Our family shield in danger’s hour;
From rock and tempest, fire and foe,
Protect us wheresoever we go;
Thus evermore shall rise to Thee
Glad hymns of praise from land and sea.

how we did it {life}

When Neel was in graduate school, low many years ago, he worked six days a week. As a hard-working PhD candidate he needed to be in the lab as much as possible, and Saturdays were generally quiet times (except for all the other graduate students!), good for getting things done. It was a schedule that worked for us. I didn't mind it really. We both worked during the week, and on Saturdays, when Neel went off to the lab, I had some much-needed time to be on my own. So Saturdays belonged to each of us alone, and Sundays belonged to the two of us. We carved out time to be together.

We left that rhythm behind when we moved to California, and then Callum came along and everything changed, but I was reminded of that time in our lives this past weekend. Callum unexpectedly went to hang with a friend, and Neel and I found ourselves again, alone together. We spent the morning together and grabbed a bite of lunch before coming back home to go our separate ways: me to my camera and Neel to the garden.

The garden will soon be coming to life as spring warms up, and Neel is ready. He's been thinking and planning all winter. We'll have another victory garden this summer, and he's considering an orchard too. An orchard! That cracks me up, but Neel will pull it off.

We talked this weekend, Neel and I, about how we're both trying to simplify and honor the earth these days. And how, each in our own way, we're part of a circle. He in nurturing these plants and bringing them to harvest, and me in taking the harvest that he cajoles from the earth and bringing it to our table. Each of us, doing our own thing, but doing it together. Seems as good a way to be in a marriage as any other. It's working pretty well for us at any rate.

bookish {life}

As if The Kitchen Counter Cooking School wasn't enough. I have a new beloved cookbook.

I think Tamar Adler might be changing my life as much as Kathleen Flinn. (Noreen, you have to get this one too!) I am trying really hard to change how I cook and how we eat, and these two women and their books are helping tremendously.

Adler's book is very different from Flinn's. It's not a memoir, really. It's almost a James Joyce-esque look at cooking and food. Her voice is soothing as she tells you how to test for doneness in roasted vegetables or how to make pesto. It's actually quite moving.

What I like about both Flinn and Adler's books is that they are pushing me beyond the way I normally cook. Last weekend, according to Flinn's recipe, I made chicken stock.

Adler has me rethinking parsley.

I've never been a fan of parsley, really. To me, parsley brings to mind that suprefulous sprig you find on the side of the seafood platter that you get at, well, a seafood platter place. Adler has a different sense of the stuff. One thing I learned from Flinn and The Kitchen Counter Cooking School is that a splash of vineger dashed on at the end makes a dish taste more alive. Adler says the same of parsley. She contends that dishes need parsley (or any herb for that matter) "to make them all brighter and more present and because you will feel more present when you eat them."

She seems pretty trustworthy to me. Ever-duitiful, I purchased my parsley and picked the leaves from the stems. Adler suggests doing this just to have parsley on hand. You're more likely to use it that way. I used the stems for my chicken broth (how's that for resourceful!) and my fridge has a bowlful of parsley, waiting. As luck would have it, and because the universe works that way, Adler was featured in this month's Everyday Food. Carmelized onion soup. It was a perfect meal for a sick boy who loves soup, and besides rainy nights are always perfect for soup. The parsley, well, that was pretty nice sprinkled on top.

monday mash up, february 20

What an improbably strange and sad weekend we had. It started on Friday morning when Neel called me with the devastating news that a colleague and friend of his had been stricken with a brain hemorrhage and was near death. And just like that, this wonderful man's life was extinguished, leaving us heartbroken and in disbelief. He was a friend and great ally to Neel. All those he knew, the department he chaired, the hospital where he worked, the students he mentored and the hundreds of patients he served are struggling to come to terms with this stunning and terrible news.

We were so glad we had Callum's dance to distract us. Neel and I went to dinner while Callum was cutting a rug and stared glumly at each other over our lettuce wraps.

Saturday morning was the championship game in Callum's basketball league. It came down to the final second, but his team (the Blue Devils) pulled out the victory! He went to a friend's house after the game but needed ibuprofen for a headache before he went. We didn't think much of it (he gets headaches like his momma) until his friend's mom called well before time to come and get him to tell us that he had a migraine. He hasn't had a migraine in almost a year. We rushed over there as quickly as we could, and I half wondered if we'd find him in pain maybe, but still playing. No such luck. He was huddled up on the sofa, his friend bouncing around him, head under some covers. White as a sheet, and he couldn't wait to get home. I sat in the back seat with him on the drive, and he told me that they'd tried to ride bikes up to an ice cream shop, but Callum couldn't make it. He had to stop and lie down in a grassy field before turning back home.

My poor kid.

Neel and I didn't talk about it on the drive. In fact even though we both thought of it, neither of us mentioned it until the dad of Callum's friend, who also knew Neel's colleague, brought it up. Dr. Lewis, who died on Friday, was an expert on pediatric migraines. Top in the field. He'd never seen Callum officially, but we had him in our back pocket in case his headaches grew worse. It was a painful irony. That such a bright light, a man who has helped so many others, is gone. The funeral is on Wednesday.

Callum came home and slept for several hours. When he woke up, he had a fever of over 100 degrees, and now, as I write this on Sunday night, we're fighting a different battle. The headache still, and a fever that won't go down. It's the sickest he's been in years.

We've hunkered down all day. Waiting for wind and sleet from a mini-Nor'easter to arrive. I made chicken stock and onion soup. I spent a little time in the studio, and Neel spent a little time working in the yard. These are the things that heal us, but still, our hearts are heavy.

five things, february 17th edition

1. I think that I'm so grateful that I had an opportunity to speak to the Advanced Photography class at my old stomping grounds yesterday. I told them that I should have been brought into the Intro class, but they were stuck with me! It was a fascinating process for me, detailing my journey as a photographer in a PowerPoint. Rewarding too. One thing on my list of ultimate goals is to be in a place where I can teach or lead workshops, either about writing or photography, and it felt really, really good to do this simple talk. Like I was taking even the barest of steps toward that goal. I spent a stint as a childbirth educator many, many years ago, and I miss teaching adults. Who knew! Thanks so much to my very first photography teacher, Jackie, for the opportunity.
2. I think that getting the end around on this cold business (meaning, my second in as many weeks) is pretty miserably unfair. I feel worse this go around and Callum isn't home to watch Emergency! with me. Boo.
3. I think that I can't believe that Callum is going to his first dance tonight! I'll post a picture for you on Monday!
4. I think I love our fireside suppers. This winter has been so warm that it's been a rare treat, but we should do it more. Last night's meal was a simple sausage and bean stew that can be easily and quickly thrown together. We have it nearly every week, but yesterday Callum asked for it, saying, "It's been SO long since I've had it!"
5. I think for our Saturday supper, Callum and I are going to cook together. A recipe from one of my favorite cookbooks for cooking with kids. Details to follow!

project 52:7 {life}

You knew I had to do food with a theme like red hot, didn't you?

We had tacos for dinner last night. Growing up, I did not like tacos. What was wrong with me? I didn't like hamburgers either. Go figure. I can remember the first time I ever had guacamole, and that wasn't until I was in high school. I'd gone to dinner with my friend Seamane and her parents to a Mexican restaurant, and her mom and dad enocuraged me to try the guacamole. Thank goodness for them, that's all I have to say.

We had guacamole last night, but there's not much red hot about guacamole. That's part of its charm. Smooth and mellow to counteract the spice.

And spice is what I want to talk about today. I'm reading and re-reading my new bible The Kitchen Counter Cooking School. I've gotten so evangelical about that book that I talked my dad into getting himself a copy yesterday. I'll have more to say about it in the coming week, I'm sure, but for right now I'm just cooking (and planning to pick up the hardcover edition too). In keeping with Kathleen Flinn's philosophy that runs roughly along the lines of why buy what you can make, I made, rather than ripped open a packet, of taco seasoning today.

It was easy enough to make me wonder why I don't do this everytime. From now on I will.

1 T chili powder
1/4 t garlic powder
1/4 t onion powder
crushed red pepper flakes (add more for more spice)
pinch of oregano
1/2 t dried paprika
1/4 t cinnamon
pinch of sea salt.

Mix seasoning together. Cook a pound of ground meat (we use chicken), and once cooked through add 2T seasonings and 1/2 cup of water. Cook until water is absorbed and meat is spiced. The longer it sits, the better it'll tast. Now you're ready for tacos!

I am never buying the packets again.

project 52:6 {life}

We live down the street from a Norfolk Southern coal pier. We're not in coal mining country, but we are certainly in the heart of coal-transporting country. When we snuck down last weekend to take these photos (Neel came with me to get his own close up of the trains), the cars weren't full of coal, but oftentimes they are.

We are regularly stopped by trains on our school commute (thankfully, it's usually on the way home and not when we're rushing to get there!), and the solid thump of the coal being dumped from the cars into vessels to ship is a sound that makes a familiar backdrop to our everyday lives (This house is also the dustiest I've ever lived in, and I don't think it's entirely from the three dogs!).

Our proximity to the coal yards takes on a personal note from me. My great grandfather (my mom's granddad) was a coal miner, and her father worked at the mines, although he was not actually a miner himself. When I knew I wanted to do my Cultre project on our neighboring coal yards, I asked my mom for some of the details of her family's life in connection to the mines. Her grandfather quit school at 13 and lied about his age to get a job in the coal mines. He was a deep underground miner (as opposed to a surface miner) and wanted to work there to save money and become self-supporting. This was in southern Illinois whch is deep coal mining country. Apparently my great-grandfather and another man tried to open a coal-mining company, but the prohibative piece was paying for insurance for the miners. My great-grandfather also did some work with a man named John L. Lewis (you can read more about Lewis here) as a labor organizer toward the formation of the United Mine Workers of America (as well as the United Steelworkers of America and the AFLCIO).

My mother's grandfather eventually bought some land and left mining to open a dairy farm which was still in operation when my mom was growing up. Even though he'd left the mines, his life underground had a lasting legacy. He developed Black Lung Diesase (now called coal workers' pneumoconiosis) and died of a lung hemmorhage when my mom was 15.

Here are my grandparents. Grandpa Fred and my Grandma Mercedes. My grandfather never worked in the deep mines. Instead he had various jobs near the strip mines in the city where my mom grew up. His main job was helping with the bush-hogging. Operating a heavy piece of equipment that moved surface earth to allow the big shovels to get to the coal. My mom recounts how the mining life was a pervasive one for her family. Miners worked in shifts, so that my granddad would work days (7AM-3PM) for two weeks, second shift (3PM-11PM) for two weeks and nights (11PM-7AM) for two weeks. This was hard on their family (my grandmother, my aunt and mom). My mom learned to make his breakfast (bacon, over easy eggs and pancakes every morning) and his lunch (two white bread sandwiches, an orange and a thermos of coffee. If he was on second and third shift, they had to be very quiet so as not to wake him. Meals came at odd hours, and there was always a mountain of a working man's laundry to be done. It's worth noting that for many years that laundry was done without the assistance of an automatic washer and dryer. Occasionally he'd get laid off and try to find work elsewhere, but he'd eventually get called back to the mines when work picked up.

My grandfather became disabled with rheumatoid arthritis when my mom was in college. (Is that timing right, Mom?) As I remember the stories, he was crippled literally overnight. He was not well, but mobile when the family took a car trip, and by the time he got out of the car he couldn't walk. (Again you may need to assist me here, Mom!) He was just shy the 20 years he needed for his pension, but either the local or national UMW worked things out so he could receive his pension anyway. As you can imagine, my family is very grateful to the UMW. The healthcare coverage was key. (As an aside, when it was clear that my granddad couldn't work anymore, my grandmother opened a children's clothing store in their home called the Weathervane Shop to provide for her family. I'm always so amazed at her industriousness, and that store kept me in gorgeous clothes for a lot of my childhood. I'm convinced that my love of clothes stems from that experience!)

My mom recalls going to the mines a few times, once when she was small to pick her dad up mid-shift because of a strike. In southern Illinois especially, there was always concern about violence associated with the strikes.

My mom wrote, What I remember most is that everything was some shade of black. Even dad, who would have coal dust all over him. I have a very fixed memory of seeing him like that and how incredibly blue his eyes were because of the way the coal dust covered the rest of him.

So you see, there's a satisfaction for me, living near these coal yards. In their connection to my past. Grandpa Fred died when I was only two, and I have no memories of him. But we're connected. Through my mom, of course, but also our migraine headaches (she doesn't ever remember him coming home sick from work despite suffering excruciating pain from the headaches). And now in the way the coal is connected to us here.

So I checked on the Norfolk Southern site, and the coal yards at the end of our street have an annual "throughput capacity" of 48 million tons and a dumping capacity of up to 8,000 tons an hour.

This view is at the end of a street we routinely take to turn down our own. During hurricanes or Nor'easters, that tunnel will often flood, reminding us that coal is connected to shipping and that the terminal is (as needs be) right on the water. I love the signs they have over that underpass. Every few weeks it's something new, often a safety reminder or a proud proclamation of how many accident-free days they've had. I've long been wanting to start photographing those signs. It feels good to have started.

The trains that run near our house, miles and miles of track in and around these coal yards, are another part of our culture. My dad and Neel love model trains, and now they're passing that love onto Callum. And you know he has some Norfolk Southern cars! And that's it. A deep, historic part of our culture. I can't hear those late night coal dumps without thinking of my grandfather. And thinking how he walked to the mine the way dozens of men and women do now, just down the street from me. The thud of those cars and the carg they carry is part of the heartbeat of our lives.